The Great Indian Dogma

Crossposted from my blog

Most of the youths in India in the age between 22-28 is obsessed with what is called as the Great Indian Dogma - the picture perfect , tranquil life of settling with a car , house and a partner . The average age by which a guy getting married nowadays has been reduced by a year or two suppose , the simple reason being they are able to place their life pretty decently.Another important reason is his working partner who is able to support the family pretty well.

We are what we see

Why is that most of the youth prefer to lead a life this way ? What inspires or motivates them to run into this inevitable.We are , what we see. The impressions that we form over the life is based on the environment that we live . Primarily it is with the parents and their attitude on what they believe can make a man's life complete. During child hood, all our opinion and belief about our lives are what our dad/mad believe or talk about. Later on , as time passes by , the people whom we meet up with you at the school , college and at our work place helps us to form our very opinion of what life actually means.

The fact is that most of us believe that a highly secured , peaceful job and a good family constitutes of having achieved the essence of life.Hence it leaves an ever lasting impression in every one's heart right from the teens that to live a life well settled is the purpose of life.And we work towards that ultimate goal of achieving the same. Many of us wouldn't want to take a risk to pursue on their dreams for the simple reason that they wish to get settled soon .

The Fear Factor

The moment we have a family to look out for, our guts to take on the world and stand for our dream vanishes . Succeeding in our dreams or ambitions becomes secondary and security of thee and our family takes the priority. We fear at change because for the very sake of relocating family and at times children education getting affected.Hence we accept our self made fate that to work on some thing which we don't love and start grunting and cribbing about it ultimately.

Do you Love your work?

When you don't love your job , you can't lead a happy life

As a result of the fore mentioned fear factor ,we slowly shift from doing things which we love to work, to work which can pay well irrespective of our love for the same .And this sacrifice is made for the very sake of spending some quality time with the family and for financial stability .For some time , things would appear to be fine that we feel like earning enough for paying the EMI and a high quality living , but sooner or later , the hate for doing work which we don't have any love for starts creeping in.

What if we don't like our work

And when we don't love what we work ,a feeling of queasiness engulfs us. This could be widely seen for the guys( like me) who actually may easily bored with stuffs like seeing our child grow up the big way , our wifey may find it more interesting to look after and spend time with the child . Though we would happy to be ad mist our family and like spending some quality time with children , life wouldn't be that exciting as each passing day , the very reason because , you get some inertia over your work which your not loving.

We have money , we have a decent life with family and friends , but the question is about , are we happy with our work ? To this , nearly 70 to 80 % of them would say a BIG No-No.

Being happy and satisfied with our work and environment in our life is some thing very very important . We spend most of the time at our work and at times , there may be a hang over which we may even bring it back home and suddenly we start feeling unhappy even though we have a picture perfect tranquil life as said before .

How to overcome this :

* Never ever settle in life until u found the love of your life - the ideal work which makes u go mad over it .Even if the craziness oozes after some time like how it happens with a gal friend , start searching for a new work , new passion once again , same as with how u find another gal friend. This would actually keep yourself moving forward . Each day u would be dealing with your new found passion and challenge that at the end of day , U feel happy over embracing the work which u love to do.

* Plan what we wanted from life . What is our idea of life . Money , Achievement,Dreams - what is that for which your running for . Make sure , partner understands you , your dreams and wishes on how you wanna place your life. On what progress you can make in life and in what time lines will you be able to reach it.
* And when your highly successful in what you love , money and fame would come to you .

I would recommend every one to watch this particular video of Steve Jobs Stanford Commencement Speech


Steve Job's Stanford Speech

Excerpt of this speech here

You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary

Having a very concrete plan will help one selves to live a life that he loves .We may even fall by leaps and bounds on our pursuit of dreams but it can bring us lot of happiness for having tried some thing we loved.

So whose stopping , Start chasing your DREAM JOB.