L.O.V.E...
I always believe that love shouldn't have a reason . Love has to grow with in us for some time and you would never know what's happening until it reaches your nerves one fine day and you find that the one your in love with ,is the person whom you have been with for quite some time. It should takes it's own time to grow and let it grow more and more deeper.
Some time back , I always wondered how arranged marriages work . May be some ten years back things are bit ok , but i don't think that an arranged marriage where in a boy / gal who knew very little before hand get to start a new lease of life . And i also get to see a lot of love marriages fail. It's not marriages that fail people , but its about people who fail marriages.
Happened to read the book Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. It's true that man and woman belong to two different planets in their way of thoughts , belief and way of living.So it becomes highly imperative that you understand each other well and have mutual respect for the other persons feelings, thoughts and freedom .
The moment the other person starts giving a different perspective to what the first person said , its assumed as the dawn of an argument. It gets personal there instantly.
The problem with most of us is, whenever some one is telling us some thing , instead of listening to what is said , we start preparing to give answers on what we feel about the same there by missing the whole point , on what is said.
It's easy for some one to tell that they are in love but to prove and stand by what they really meant needs a life time.
A guy expects his gal to be like his mom and a gal expects her hubby to be like her dad and when this expectation blew out of proposition , the problem starts.
The best possible thing that can be done is to accept the people for the way they are .Though it is good to speak what ever you feel very openly , please do be reminded of the fact that it can hurt people a lot . It may not be ok when you ask a sorry .Words can be too personal and it can affect a relationship to a great extent.It's better to keep one's mouth shut whenever some weird thoughts creeps across mind . They may be just passing cloud.
It's easy to get into into a relationship,
It's easy to break from a relationship ,
But it's really tough to be in a relationship for life and live happy.
It really needs a greater level of understanding,trust,care and maturity to face every day problem and move on gracefully in life.
Happened to stumble a small anecdote of swami vivekanandha here .
Loved these lines
* Give and don't expect
* Advise, but don't order.
* Ask, but never demand.
It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice.It is the secret to true love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring.
Passing thought... Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away.
To love and be loved the unconditional way , We need to be blessed :)
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